Can anyone remember those adverts, I think they were for biscuits, with Linford Christie?? You have to have a Positive Mental Attitude to get where you want to go. So why is it so blooming hard!
Every day I look for the positives, and every day so many little negatives get strewn across my path it makes it so hard. Many days at the moment I lose the battle. So today I am making a resolution to myself. I WILL have a PMA moment, every day, where I stop and look at the positives in my life.
For a start, my two beautiful little children, absolute blessings both of them. Yes they are hard work, be it the ongoing weaning with Baby R (I will reclaim my boobies one day ...!) or the toilet training with Toddler R. But for ever accident Toddler R has, there are two we catch in the potty, with the chuffed little face that goes with it. And for every time Baby R won't take a cup, there are mealtimes where she polishes all her grub off followed by a big drink.
Mr R. Well, quite a lot he does my head in, but then he is the one in the firing line. He is the one who has to live with me day by day, and to be quite honest he probably does deserve a medal for that. But for every bad joke and every insensitive comment that sends me off in a rage, there is the bathtime with the kids that he is 100% hands on with, the shared determination that we will sit down with the house tidy by 8pm every night, and the indulgence of my obsession with Glee (yes, I am a Gleek, and proud of it!!). Mr R, you may not be Johnny Depp, but you are Mr Dependable, and I know you will always be there by my side to co-parent with me, planning and working towards our future together, and for that I love you.
My friends. Well according to facebook I have 358 of them ... but friendships are an area of my life which I struggle with. I find it difficult to find a balance between all or nothing with my close friends, a hang up from my teen years of a string of failed 'best' friendships. But as I have got older I have realised you don't have to know what your friends are doing every minute of every day, and see them 5 times a week, to cement your friendship. Some of my good, closest friends I only see a handful of times a year, and I have many many friendships that exist on a purely virtual plane - but that doesn't make them any less real. Some of my 'pink' ladies, a group of ladies who meet and chat via a private forum online, have been the truest friends I have ever had the pleasure to know, and care for me warts and all in a way that I feel blessed to experience. Girls, I love you for being part of our BaBs world, and making it such a special haven.
So actually, I have a lot to be thankful for, and this blog has only just scratched the surface. Next time I feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath me and I don't know where to turn, I will switch on my PMA mode, look for the positives, and move forward grateful for the blessings in my life which counter the negatives. For without the bad in the life, how would we ever realise how good the positives actually are.